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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel your pain from the man’s perspective.  My wife thinks once s month is plenty and barely let’s me touch her anymore.[/quote]

Why can't you and OP have a safe sexual relationship so neither of you are single parents.

I would get the spouse approval but sounds like a winner![/quote]

It’s odd isn’t it? How you have two people who would love to have sex with the person they care about and their partner isn’t interested.  If only this can be weeded our in the beginning so people who don’t think sex is important could just hook up and be miserable with each other.  [/quote]

I agree with this...but also have to admit things changed for me personally. I don't think the role of long term birth control gets enough attention as a HUGE factor in such things! Like many women, I was on birth control for YEARS, starting at around 17 all the way through until I was married and ready to start thinking about getting pregnant at 32. Omg...I had no idea I was such a horny freak! Seriously, the change was pronounced. I could not believe how much I was suddenly thinking about sex and how raunchy I felt. We had always had a fine sex life - I think it could best be described as "perfectly nice". But my husband is 5 years older than me and looking back he was never high drive...he was more a ~once a week guy, which was fine with me for all those years. Here's how I would best describe it: on the pill, I really didn't think about sex very often - it's more like we'd start doing something, and then I'd get turned on and be into it. Off the pill...I was automatically wet down there and day dreaming about sex half the month. ''Twas crazy! Anywsys, point being I think especially in low drive men relationships, a lot of times the problem is that things change on the woman's side, as the man (who never had a crazy high drive) gets older and continues to get further away from his sexual prime. It sounds cliche but I'm 36 and feel like I'm just staaarting to approach mine. If you'd told me even 5 years ago how important the role of sex would be for me, I wouldn't have believed you.

I wonder a lot how I will talk to my daughter(s) about this stuff. I was raised Catholic - not a strict catholic family, but my parents literally just never talked to us about sex (/never acknowledged that it was even a thing, really). I like to think I will find a way to convey to my children that sex is important and a valid relationship criteria, without coming across as the wannabe cool mom from mean girls...[/quote]

Once a week isn’t enough for me and I’m 40.  I could every day but my wife isn’t even good with twice a week.  She’s okay with once every week to two weeks.  I go nuts after three days.  Being away on work is one thing, I understand.  When you’re laying in the bed next to me and constantly reject me I take it personally.

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Is she cheating on you?[/quote]

I’ve asked that question to myself quite a lot[/quote]

Any particular signs (in addition to lack of interest in you?)[/quote]

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