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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in a close to sexless marriage and don’t know what to do.  We’ve been married for four years and sex has never been that consistent.  He’s a once a week guy.  He used to drink a lot and couldn’t perform when he’d been drinking.  I was often very frustrated sexually.  Looking back, I should have left.

Then I got pregnant.  He wouldn’t have sex with me while pregnant as he couldn’t stay hard.  I went almost a year not having sex.  Our son is almost a 1.5 and on average we have sex once a month.  I have so much resentment that even if he wanted to have sex, I don’t want to.

Has anyone dealt with this and turned the marriage around?  I don’t even know where to start.

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Resentment is a big one whatever the cause.

If it's once a week I don't see a problem there. It seems to be your resentment at this point.  Reading some of the other posts there are some immature and needy people on here.  I wouldn't want someone pawing me 2-3 times a week because I want my own time, not feeling pressured by someone who can't control their needs or respect another's boundaries.  Quite a few on here who probably shouldn't be married to begin with.  You can find someone else OP, but with a child it's not going to be easy or perfect with the next person.

I would look at the entire relationship. How is he in other parts of the relationship?[/quote]

So you feel "pawed at 2-3 times a week"? And you "feel pressured" for sex? How did your incompatible relationship ever get past the second date? Oh, wait: I know! You were happily enjoying sex 3-4 times per week for the first couple years. Long enough to secure the relationship, have a few kids, become financially entwined. Only then [u]YOU CHANGED[/u] and for some selfish reason, you expect your partner would also go along with your low sex drive! Like you said, some people on here should never be married, especially those who attempt this selfish bait-and-switch tactic. Here's some free advice to save your marriage: issue a permanent hall pass. Otherwise, divorce and find a compatible (low drive) partner. But don't stick around feeling "pressured for sex". The burden is on YOU to fix or end this, since YOU are the one who has changed.[/quote]

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