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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m in a close to sexless marriage and don’t know what to do.  We’ve been married for four years and sex has never been that consistent.  He’s a once a week guy.  He used to drink a lot and couldn’t perform when he’d been drinking.  I was often very frustrated sexually.  Looking back, I should have left.

Then I got pregnant.  He wouldn’t have sex with me while pregnant as he couldn’t stay hard.  I went almost a year not having sex.  Our son is almost a 1.5 and on average we have sex once a month.  I have so much resentment that even if he wanted to have sex, I don’t want to.

Has anyone dealt with this and turned the marriage around?  I don’t even know where to start.

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I can’t believe you think having sex once a month is “close to sexless.”!

Some of us have gone years. [/quote]

Since sexless is defined as &lt;10x/year, so yes, they are close to sexless. Your pain doesn't negate hers. I'm sorry you've gone years without sex.[/quote]
I find it hard to feel much sympathy for somebody who allows this kind of treatment by staying with a sexless partner, and not Opening the marriage. The innocent victim card has a shelf life, you need to take responsibility for your own happiness. After "years" this is now on you![/quote]

Sounds like a plan! Unfortunately, many spouses in this situation are not willing to “open” the marriage. [/quote]

A partner who rejects sex does not get to vote on opening the marriage. They already set the precedent for unilateral decisions about sex in the marriage. You simply exercise this same right to declare it’s now open. [/quote]

People use the not helping enough excuse to cheat, the in-laws, blah blah blah. Poor me, not getting my way all the time.

Get divorced and move on. You clearly aren't good at marriage.[/quote]

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