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[color=red]I have a great husband, does a lot, cares about me, doesn't slack off. I STILL don't find sex with him interesting any longer. I do it -- very regularly! -- but the biological idea that women get bored and want somebody new more than men do resonates with me.

I'm happy in my marriage -- as a co parenting, co living situation. Do I find my husband attractive, sexy, interesting? No. But this is mostly not his fault. [/quote][/color]

[color=blue]Agreed. You could be my wife. Aside from me being a good partner and father, objectively, I am a "high value" male: ultra fit, top 1% income, lots of friends, other women show interest, etc. So I no longer take it personally that "she" does not find me sexy. It's not her fault, it is just how women are wired. Like you, we still have regular sex, and I graciously accept her "gift" since I still have an active interest in sex.

[b]PP, is there anything your H could do to improve your desire? I would seriously consider issuing her permanent hall pass, it would be worth it if she would bring some of that excitement back into our bedroom.[/color][/b][/quote]

Wife here. Not experiencing bed death yet, but we’ve only been together 8 years.  I get turned on when I observe other women interested in DH and flirt with him (I have to witness the threat firsthand).  And when we spend a good amount of time apart, like 4 days or more.  Or if someone is flirting with me, I can take that energy home to him.  Otherwise I need to turn to my own resources to get turned on for him.  Monogamy is hard, no two ways about it![/quote]

You, PP in blue, have more going for you than my DH (I'm the OP in Red). My DH could get fit (he's quite out of shape, and I find it a turn-off). I'd like him to be better groomed, but requests sometimes go unheaded, and I'm uncomfortable dictating his grooming habits. Money, we are not in the to 1% of income, but I don't expect that to happen anytime soon, our income is adequate. He's intelligent, well read, and well spoken. A hall pass would be  interesting and lovely, but we flirted with open marriage idea but he really was uncomfortable with that  idea, and didn't want to go there.

I [i]have [/i]an active interest in sex. Just not so much with my husband. I do try to be grateful everyday for what I have -- a thoughtful, caring partner! -- but you know, that doesn't get women wet. What do I want? Yeah, an open relationship would be great, but dangerous. I'm not certain I wouldn't fall in love with the other person.[/quote]

Further proof no matter what a woman ever says, they do not "want" a nice, stable, loyal guy they think wont leave. Only an idiot would go for an open marriage. What kind of deal is that? Some one bangs her sends her home and you get to deal with the daily nonsense that comes with marriage. Now swinging might work , win-win.[/quote]

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