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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why is it that when a brown girl marries a white guy, other brown people get offended?

Why is it that when a black man marries a white girl, other black people are angry?

What is it about marrying white that offends other POC?[/quote]
So I am black woman married to a white man and I was shocked by how nasty some black men were about that. I went to a predominately white high school and ALL of the few black boys that also attended my school openly said they only dated white girls. (Although to be fair one of them is married to a very beautiful, very accomplished black woman...not sure what she sees in him). I think black women frequently get upset because some black men will really openly say that they think that white women are superior for whatever stereotyped reason. [b]I personally think that everyone should just marry whoever they want but you must have some self-hatred reasons if you dislike all women or men that are the same race that you are. [/b]

Also, [b]although I am not South Asian, I think it is a little weird and problematic that every show or movie that is successful lately has an South Asian person in a relationship with a white person.[/b] Examples being both seasons of Master of None, the Big Sick, and every love interest on the Mindy Project. [/quote]

Agree with the bolded.  I'm white, married to a black man.  I dated men of all races when I was single, and met two different black men who proudly announced they only dated white women because black women are all [stupid stereotypes here], ON OUR FIRST DATE.  I think they meant it to be a compliment to me (or some kind of coded reassurance? unclear) but both were pretty surprised when I walked out on the date.  No one should be constrained in who they can date based on race, but if you have a blanket ban on a certain race (I don't care which one, it doesn't have to be a self-hatred issue) then I assume you're not someone my values line up with very well.

As for the South Asian/white thing -- I felt bad for Kumail Nanjiani because his movie was autobiographical and he got so much flack for reinforcing the stereotype that was started with Mindy & Master of None.  But I do understand why people are upset with the trend.[/quote]

Really? Because I don't and it makes me so angry when people say that movies that look like my marriage are "problematic." Bite me. It's this bizarre #woke racism and it's BS. [/quote]
Ok, Jan. You realize that the majority of South Asians are married to other South Asians? But I’m glad you can be in the lucky group that gets to see themselves represented in the media. [/quote]

You are srupid AF. I'm an indian married to an Indian and watch primarily Indian movies and shows. My sister is married to a white man. You are a racist. My sister is notnin a lucky group, other than the fact that shes been lucky in love. Get a life.[/quote]

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