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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When you have a pattern of letting your brother/parents dictate when they come and go based on what works best for their schedules, unfortunately, they are going to lose it when you finally do put your foot down.  You are being completely reasonable given your schedule.  I agree w/pp that you don't need to give any more explanation.  Your brother has a number of options.  If he chooses to whine and complain and stamp his feet and then "punish" you by not coming at all, that's all on him. [/quote]

OP here- thanks, this makes me feel better. We have a tradition of always doing Christmas at our house and Easter at his. And this year it is on a Sunday. If Christmas is on a Friday or a weekend, we always do it (other years we have skipped if it is on a Wed. or something--then it is too hard). We spoke about this in August and he was noncommittal. I personally think they never wanted to come, but did not want to tell me. Conveniently, they took two weeks off before our Christmas and never said they were not coming until last week and then said, yeah, we can come Jan. 2-4 but we are not staying any of the weekend. There is no reason they can't come and leave on Saturday. None. There is a pattern of doing this every time we get together (they hijack family plans to the way they want to do it...it is old.) I have to just think of it as their loss that they don't want to come when they would be back in time on late Saturday so there is no missed Monday meeting. [/quote]

Hang in there.  It is their loss.[/quote]

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