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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Cannot believe that no one has read "Five Love Languages."  My mother did the same thing as OP's MIL, including getting a job at TJ Maxx to find "good deals" to send.  However, I am aware that one of the main love languages is gift-giving.  This is simply the primary way that some people show and receive love.  OP - your MIL got joy from planning the purchase, buying it and anticipating her grandchildren's reaction to the gifts.

[b]Instead of making the reaction all about you and your control issues, understand that this is her way of loving your children.[/b]  Something that she should have the right to do.  It is then up to you, after Christmas, to use or donate gifts as you see fit.  Will it potentially cause a conflict with your children?  Maybe, but that is part of parenting.  Give them the choice of what to keep and what to donate.

Gifts are about giving, and it is rude of you to try to control what she will gift.  You can suggest, but that is all. [b] Try to look at people as fundamentally good and try to understand them[/b].  Maybe your MIL wished that she could have such a toy when she was a child and never got one.  OR maybe she had a similar toy and remembers fondly how much fun it was and wants that for her grandchildren.

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This is a wonderful post.  Of course it may be too mature for your audience but that is a different issue.[/quote]

It sounds more to me like warped thinking from someone raised by a mom with issues.[/quote]

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