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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]wait I thought the standard was 1 week tuition, to be split evenly across the teachers?[/quote]

BWAH HAHAHA.  This is a joke, right?  Like the man is supposed to spend 3 months of his salary on the engagement ring?[/quote]

Not a joke. That's normal. [/quote]

This is "normal" only if you are affluent or you like adhering to arbitrary rules. My husband did not spend 3 months of salary on my engagement ring, he spent what he could afford and he still ended up taking out a zero interest credit card and paying it off over the course of a year. Similarly, we are not going to spend a week of tuition money on our daughter's caregivers. For us that would be an extra $500 at a time of year when we are already stretched thin between family gifts for the holidays and expensive cross country flights. We will be giving each of DD's 5 caregivers at her home day care $40 or $50 each, and that's still a sacrifice for us. Yes, we value our caregivers. Yes, we understand that they are underpaid and wish it weren't so. Yes, we make over $100K. However we also do not own a home, do not have inherited family money, have had major medical bills this year, and have spent the last decade paying down over $100K of combined student loans, saving for a down payment for a home, and paying for our wedding.

OP and PP, you need to read up a little bit about privilege and understand that people give what they can afford. [/quote]

I meant one week's salary is normal for a daycare bonus. I am not privileged, but I know how hard they work. [/quote]

The use of the word "normal" is not appropriate here, PP. Perhaps among some groups this is considered a social expectation or norm, but that does not obligate people to adhere to it. Every family is different and every situation is different. Gratitude can be expressed in ways other than monetarily. It is rude to suggest that a family's inability to pay an extra week's salary during the holidays to their child's teachers implies their lack of awareness or gratitude for how hard the teachers work. And if you are not privileged, what exactly is your definition of privilege? I can't afford a week's salary for my kid's teachers but I certainly recognize the privilege I have in my life that many others don't have.[/quote]

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