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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Disclaimer: I'm a guy who has been married for 20 years. I don't think I've flirted with anyone but my wife since then. (I was never that good at flirting.)

Some of the male response to the recent wave of harassment news has been to complain that innocent attempts to flirt or strike up a romance will get them fired for harassment. Is the line really that ambiguous?

Step one would seem to be just not to pursue romance at work. But, I guess for some that might be unrealistic - work might be the only place they interact with other people. Step two, if you are going to pursue romance at work, don't pursue a subordinate. Step three, be polite and take no for an answer.

Am I oversimplifying? [/quote]

Rule #1 - don't sh*t where you eat (i.e., no romance of any sort at work)

Rule #2 - don't be a f*cking asshole towards women.

~ another mid-40s guy here[/quote]

Problem with rule 2 is, you don't get to define what "being an asshole" is. She may decide you're an asshole... many years after the fact.[/quote]

This is true. There was a femle poster here who ws upet with men for   saying hello to her when she was at a coffee shop. Shr never said they sai anything lewed  or that they approached her more than once, but she still cclaimed she was a victim of harrassment.

The line should be obvious but  there are  nuts in the world.[/quote]

So SHE's the nut because she's feeling harrased?!?!?!

GFY.

Go back to your MRA meeting, jerk. [/quote]

Not the PP, but I think it was a good point. People saying "hello" to you in a coffee shop is not harassment. But this response shows how subjective it really is.[/quote]

Well, the problem is,[b] most men don’t go and randomly say hello to other men in coffee shops, or ask to sit with them. [/b]So why should women, quietly on their own, in a public place, have to endure constant infringements on their time and space?[/quote]

+1 But here comes the "can't you take a compliment" brigade. [/quote]

So a woman in public’s sole purpose is to be there to take your compliments? What if all she wanted to do is go out and get a coffee by herself? Do you compliment random men on your outings too?[/quote]

My apologies, 1750... momentary lapse in comprehension. I see you were agreeing... this whole thread has everyone almost too livid to read![/quote]

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