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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a woman. I was discussing with my gay male friend whether I should sleep with this guy I am dating. I'm not comfortable with casual sex, so I only want to sleep with guys who are definitely into me.

Anyway, my friend was saying, this is not an issue with gay men. Men just sleep together with each other pretty  much right away. So then he asked, "So then why dont straight men just lie, and act like they really like the girl, so that she will sleep with them?"

I said, "I think some men DO do that. Which is why women try to analyze men's actions. But I think some men realize that if the sleep with a woman, there is the potential with drama. And sleeping with a woman who you are not that into and you know you will eventually dump may not be worth the drama."

Any straight men want to weigh in on this?[/quote]

Straight and [b]verile [/b]guy here - I think the point about "drama" has its merits for sure.  In addition, some guys just aren't assholes, don't just see women as a notch in the belt (among other euphemisms one can use here) and actually respect women.  I've never been one to feign interest just to sleep with women.  I have had short-term relationships/flings where it was just sex, but it was pretty clear that both of us wanted that and nothing more.  When I am seriously dating, I say that - I say that so a) I can weed out women who aren't in the same place that I am and b) to send a clear signal to a woman that I'm not in any rush to get her into bed (though it never really took too long for that to happen anyway).  I have always been clear about what I wanted and left no ambiguity to be deciphered.

What I don't get is when women say they need an emotional connection but their own past history contradicts that.  Just be upfront about what you want and stop making up excuses.[/quote]

Virile. If you’re going to brag, be sure to get it right.  :wink: [/quote]

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