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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The Rules work, a friend I thought was so smart finally whispered for me to read them years ago. [/quote]

[i]The Rules[/i] is such an overrated book. The main premise is basically: do nothing, do not initiate conversations, do not even make eye contact with men, act disinterested, like you have somewhere better to be, seem "mysterious," and the men will "chase" you, because men chasing women is the "natural order of the universe." She also insists that women should never drive themselves to a date -- men should pick them up. This seems insane to me. What if the date goes horribly wrong? Don't you want to be able to leave independently if you need to?

It "works," only because there are men who will approach basically any woman. Some of those men are fine, but some aren't necessarily who you want. A lot of these guys tend to be PUAs who see you as a challenge to be conquered. But the author's assumption that if a man doesn't chase, he is not interested, is so utterly wrong. He may think you are out of his league, or unapproachable for some reason. Also, the book was clearly written before modern dating apps, which upend much of the conventional wisdom.

I'm not suggesting that women should go around aggressively chasing men, but being a bit more active and strategic seems more reasonable than leaving your fate up to the "natural order of the universe."[/quote]

Definitely does not advise acting disinterested! If a man doesn't have the HOTs for you there's no amount of strategy in the world that will get him to love you alone for the rest of his life. You can totally call a cab and post a super attractive photo on dating apps, then see who matches. [/quote]

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