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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here...

I'm surprised so many people are so surprised with rent.[b] For 18 years we allowed him to live here rent free with the understanding that after he would be expected to live independently.[/b] Having him live with us would cost us more (more basic supplies, etc) so I think it is fair to pass these costs down to him.

I feel as though $500 is very fair, well below market rate for our neighborhood.

As for the curfew, it's not only just for respect, but also because I don't want him falling back on the service industry. Most restaurants have late hours and expect their employees to stay until 11-12 o'clock.

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Must be a troll. No way OP chose to have a child to raise and now considers that a "rent free" benefit. A real poster would not be counting the kid's participation in a family vacation against this kid. [/quote]

Agree. This can't be a real situation. She/he says they were *allowed* to live rent free as children?? I am leaving this thread.[/quote]

Agree. So OP, you established this contract about living independently at 18 with your newborn? Even a 12 year old should not be expected to pay rent, or feel like they are living "rent free" in their parents home. If you choose to have a child, you also should be prepared to support their basic housing, food and clothing needs.

I posted above that my DC lives at home. The additional "supplies" are pretty insignificant. Yes there is some food, but DC also buys groceries on occasion. TP usage I suppose, but that's not a huge expense. What supplies are you expecting to see a spike in? If there are specific things then maybe ask DC to contribute to those or provide his own.[/quote]

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