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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There are some black women who change their names to their husband's name and give their children their husband's name because of the stereotype of baby mamas/kids of out wedlock etc. White women weren't usually painted as whores who had children without benefit of marriage when they keep their names, and as such have had "options" when it came to changing their name or keeping their name.

[b]My mother would never have considered keeping her last name and ever having someone think she was unmarried when she had us.[/b] I have two last names and so do my kids because we wanted them to have my name and my husband's name and, if I am honest, the baby mama thing was there in my mind, too. My children will likely decide to do something different than we did. Times, they are a'changin'. [/quote]

My MIL had this reaction when I didn't change my name.  She had the conversation privately with my DH, but her thought pattern was...a woman changing her last name is a point of pride, a sign that you have been lucky enough to get married and are "taken" (and the unspoken implication is...no one will think you are, gasp, single).

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