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OP here.  My daughter is 3. [b] I find it no problem at all to host playdates at our house frequently. [/b] I'd host them weekly if I felt like it was appreciated/we were getting reciprocal invites.  I've hosted playdates plus dinner (homemade), the parties I mentioned, playdate plus brunch, fun things like family game night and make your own pizza night, etc.  Sometimes I invite one family over, sometimes I invite 2-3 over for a playdate.

I do enjoy entertaining but I'd enjoy it more if people reciprocated!  I'm trying to make friends and I have no idea if the people I'm inviting are interested in being friends or not, because they aren't inviting us to do anything.

I am from the Midwest originally, but growing up my parents only hosted adults only dinner parties at our house, nothing that was family friendly, and they did not entertain often (both were very anti-social).  I learned how to entertain on my own.  People often comment that my parties are some of the best they've ever been to, and while it's lovely to hear the compliments, what I really want is to be invited out places![/quote]
I'm the PP you responded to, and I get that. My point was that while I like entertaining adults, *I* don't like to host playdates. So if you invited my kids over for one, it would be a high stress thing for me to reciprocate. I might invite you for brunch with your kids and spouse, but I know many people who don't have homes where they feel comfortable doing that.

I'm not sure what you want out of this thread. We're trying to tell you why people don't reciprocate your invitations...it has nothing to do with you and whether people like you or want to be your friend. It will probably get different when your kids are older, and people are less physically exhausted. In the meantime, I would suggest maybe trying to cultivate friendships that are separate from kids. Ladies dinners and such. I will do triple somersaults to attend the monthly ladies dinner I have with a group of friends, because it's just so nice to socialize with grown-ups a no one asking me for anything.[/quote]

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