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I’m a transplant myself, and I get it. It sucks not having a support network. But while you’re at home ‘bored’ with your child, I’m running around like a crazy chicken just trying to get through another day. Hosting an event is literally the last thing on my mind or priority list.
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OP here.  Okay, I understand that things are more hectic with 2 or more kids, but why can't you invite me over for a simple playdate at your house, the way I've invited you several times?  Don't your kids like to have friends over?  And why can't you invite us to meet up with you at a playground or something?

In the last year I've probably gotten less than 3 invitations to do anything (zero invites for playdate at their house, one invite for playdate at a park, and 2 invites for big parties (not birthday parties).  We get lots of birthday party invites.[/quote]

Because first, we don’t really do play dates at my house. My kids are close enough in age that they play together, and as I said I’m super busy and not looking for additional stress. To be honest, when I think of play dates I think mostly of only children. And if there was such a well behaved child who I would consider inviting to my house then I’d prob only do it if they were an age and personality that could play with all of kids at once which narrows it down even further. And since I have boys, we don’t have a single Disney or princess thing so that may be another reason if they just have boys. Plus of course I’d need to actually like the mother.

The playing at the park thing is more of a fair question. We do play at the park and would be happy to see other nice kids there. My answers are that 1) they may not know that you’re available for super last minute requests (since very few people plan to go to the park exactly st a certain time due to weather etc and the difficulty getting kids out the door at a certain time) and 2) they might think your daughter is too much of a princess to want to play with sticks and sand at the playground, and 3) they might feel that it’s not a good enough invite for you, esp if you’ve been hosting elaborate events and they might get the feeling you’re counting score and think this wouldn’t be good enough.. maybe they do even intend to invite you when they get around to hosting something but that will probably be years down the line due to more pressing concerns.[/quote]

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