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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Whenever I see these posts about how easy the recovery is from a scheduled Csection, I feel the need to chime in and just say that you can't count on that.  My csection was planned well in advance (breach baby), I had an otherwise healthy and uneventful pregnancy.  I was not AMA, I was fit, with really strong core, did the yoga, etc.  The surgery went well, and my baby was healthy, and I even got a lot of compliments on my scar (as if I had anything to do with it, but I still liked hearing them).  I left the hospital a day early even.

BUT, you will be unable move properly for weeks.  You will not be able to pace the floor with your new born like you need/want to.  It will be months later, and you will still feel weak in your abs, and will not be able to get up off the floor.  This is a very serious surgery, and it will take months to recover.  And last time, I didn't even have a toddler.  Look, I haven't ever recovered from a 3rd degree tear, but I don't know any mom who did a vaginal birth who was physically recovering as long as I was.  I just don't want this thread to give anyone an overly rosy view of csection recovery![/quote]

Hi, I am a mom who is still physically recovering from a traumatic vaginal delivery-- so know you know someone. I could not sit down comfortably for months and brought my hospital donut everywhere. I could hardly walk for weeks. I Couldn't have sex without pain for over a year and I spent 6 months in pelvic floor PT because of nerve damage and pain.  Nothing is rosy about childbirth, but my 3 friends who had uncomplicated scheduled Caesareans all were back to exercising well before I could even walk without discomfort. I know people will say that my experience is an outlier but the more I talk to women the more I realize how common these issues are in the post partum period. They just are not talked about. All recoveries suck, and some are harder than others.[/quote]

Sorry--I shouldn't have compared the two--and I don't mean to imply that recovering vaginal child birth is anything rosy at all!  Just the vibe I got from some PPs (maybe this was their experience--if so I'm jealous--or maybe the details just faded into the memory hole that is the postpartum months) was that the recovery from a cs is no big deal.  I just wanted to clarify that this is not the case.  And my experience is not an outlier--this is what it is to recover from having your abs cut open and a baby yanked through them.  [/quote]

I'm a NP here. I don't doubt or contest your experience at all, but wanted to add that some do truly have different experiences and not just faulty memories. I'm currently 9 weeks postpartum after my second c section, so my memories of this healing process haven't faded into memory yet. The first 2 weeks were really rough and I agree it was super hard to get up and walk/pace with the newborn. I also needed a lot of help with my toddler. But, I felt markedly better after 2 weeks, and almost 100% back to normal at 6 weeks. Since then, I've been doing yoga and Pilates regularly and going on long walks with no pain. I have no difficulty getting up off the floor and have regularly been playing on the floor with the toddler for at least a month. I will say that I remembered recovering really well and quickly from my first, emergency c section, so I was surprised and disappointed at how hard the first two weeks were this time, but I can say without the fog of memory that it took weeks and not months to feel back to normal this time around. [/quote]

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