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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would talk to him more about it. Maybe he thinks you'd like that and said that because he'd also like it but it isn't a deal breaker to him.[/quote]

No I kind of freaked out. I said “are you joking? It’s not 1950.” And then he went on to explain about his dad abandoning them, as if that had anything to do with anything in the present. He basically said it’s really important to him and that’s where we left it.[/quote]

Has he been to therapy ever?

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OP here. Not that I know of. [b]We're still getting to know each other[/b] though so maybe he has been and it just hasn't come up.[/quote]

NP.  This is key.  You've only been dating for 6 months! As you get to know him, you'll figure out how his childhood continues to affect him as an adult.  Because it does (even if you aren't connecting the dots), it's just a matter of how much it's still affecting him. Maybe he's had therapy, maybe he hasn't. That wouldn't be as important to me as long as he seems well-adjusted overall.  It actually sounds to me like he has some level of self-awareness if he's relating his views on family back to his own childhood.  You just need to flush all of this out more as the relationship gets more serious.

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