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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'd be most worried that he sees kids as his chance to relive his childhood.  Any actual kids won't cooperate with that fantasy.[/quote]

Oh come on!!!! You are grasping and you know it.

That is OP's interpretation of what he wants.  And every single one of us wanted our kids to have better childhoods than we had.  I see absolutely nothing wrong with what this guys is saying.

When a woman on DCUM tries to defend her SAH status all of you chime in to support her, [b]but a guy can't voice his preference for this.[[/b]/quote]

np The difference is the fact that he is dictating his wants onto another person!  If he said, I believe that a parent should stay at home and asked her thoughts on staying at home than that is ok. 
 But, if the man says "You will stay home with the children until I say it is ok to work than it is NOT ok.  Who knows op maybe if they married and had kids she would want to choose to stay at home but, it feels different if you are not given any choice in the matter.  That is where the problem lies.

Op, I would explore this further.  I would not marry him until we  had fully discussed this detail because it is HUGE.  Tell him that it is unfair to put you in a box when you don't even have children yet.  If he can't remain flexible and at least say I will  let you decide what you want to do with your life, [i]with children[/i] than he is not the one you should marry.  Or you will be disappointed/upset when he makes it clear how you should only stay at home.  [/quote]

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