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Op here. I want to do well and live well. I’ve always wanted this. I am not opposed to working hard on my career however I am also cognizant of the fact that unless I luck into creating a multimillion dollar company, it takes two to build that dream. My DH works hard but isn’t a man of vision. His dream is to come home and play video games and decompress. He’s not thinking investment portfolios or real estate dreams.

I so wish I had a man who was a partner and a co-visionary. Someone who’s dreams is assist and help implement. I’m all on my own and being forced to live the grunt of a thanklesss middle class life. [/quote]

PP here, and my DH isn't either, unfortunately.  He's good for bouncing technology ideas off though.  Does your DH have any special knowledge or skills for which you can at least seek advice, if needed?

Alternatively, the fact of the matter is that people do outgrow each other.  If you think you're better off without him, then nothing wrong in going your own way.  Good luck! [/quote]

My DH isn’t lazy or anything like that. He works very hard at his job, pleases the management at his company and his plan is to keep doing well until they promote him. To me it seems like the opposite of being proactive about your goals and career.

His attitude gives me anxiety. There’s so much more than this day to day grind of middle class life.

I keep thinking of Creative entrepreneurship ideas on my own to try and pursue. All of my friends who married welll were very ambitious women. They just channeled it to finding a certain kind of guy and are now helping their DHs succeed in their careers.[/quote]

Is your husband, OP, holding you back?  Like if you had an in-demand IT skill and wanted to become an independent consultant he said no, it’s too much risk.  Or if you were able to increase your income and wanted to use the money for investments including potentially real estate, he would say no?  I ask because I know women that were more willing to take risks because they had the work benefits and middle class salary of their spouse behind them, not that the spouse had to be a multi-millionaire.

Also why are you living paycheck to paycheck?  Either you need to up YOUR income or cut expenses. If your DH is not supportive of either option, then I can see problems on the horizon.[/quote]

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