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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here's a different perspective from an older guy.

I was late to marry.  I met my now-wife at 33, married at 37 and earlier this year, we celebrated 15 years marriage and are still happily together.  Having watched a lot of friends getting married over the last 30 years, my take is that, while there are many guys who are simple to please, end up divorced sooner rather than later.  The marriages that I've seen lasting longer, are ones where the partners actually share some common interests.

My mother told me many years ago that marriage takes work.  Your love will wax and wane, so you need something in common to sustain the marriage through those times when the love wanes.  This will help keep you together until the love returns.  And I've found her to be right.  Those couples who don't have mutual interests and truly like each other outside of the love, tend to have marriages that buckle when strained or stressed.  The couples who have mutual interests and concerns for each other, work through the tough spots.  Many of the marriages that I've seen where the guy is simple and easy to please end up discarded when the going gets rough and the guy moves on because it's easier than fighting to keep the marriage alive.

But to answer OP's question, I rejoined an activity that I had been involved with in college and my wife was a member of the group I joined.  We hit it off early, started dating and have enjoyed our years together.  We have several mutual interests that we still enjoy (harder to find time for them with kids, etc), but in general, it was our mutual interest that brought us together and kept us together through the dating/discovery phase of our relationship.[/quote]

This. This is a decent man. With a good mother to boot![/quote]

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