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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can understand that hurt your feelings and I'm sorry, OP.  But that is a LOT of time with your family.

And as someone that's childfree (not a man), I don't really enjoy spending time with other's children, especially their babies. Is your DH vocal about wanting to remain childfree? [/quote]

DH, is surprisingly enthusiastic around nieces and nephews from his side of the family. He bought early Xmas presents and birthday presents for them during our last visit because he knew we would not be coming for Christmas. He will hold the babies and play with the kids.

But my brothers child? He’s not interested and does the bare minimum to interact with her when we’re visiting. [/quote]

Wait, was this the OP’s response?  If it’s true your DH is enthusiastic about nieces and nephews from his siblings and not your brother, I still maintain that you tried to joke about a serious issue that’s bothering you, broached  it after already spending the past few weeks with your family (bad timing) and got pissed when your DH shut it down direct and blunt.

I’ll be 100 percent honest about if I feel the same way about my BIL’s children as I do my sister’s children and the answer is no.  For me, it is a reflection of the relationship with the parents.  For me, a mom, if I connect with their mom, I am more likely to feel comfortable around their young children.  My BIL’s wife trusts no one but her momma and her side of the family with her child, therefore, it’s less stressful for me if I keep a little distance. I’ll encourage the relationship for the sake of our kids who love and are excited with their much younger first cousin  but that’s it.  My DH’s has first cousins with children and I feel a tighter bond with them because his first cousins are kind, welcoming, and pretty awesome.

That brings me to the second point.  Even though I can sometimes have a rocky road with my own sister, we still have the shared history, some good memories, and our parents to bond us together.  I will likely deal with more from her than I would someone that is a stranger to me and related by marriage.  I also know that people divorce.  While it’s not in the front of my mind, I do think subconsciously if the relationship would stand the test of divorce.  I’m not saying BFFs but I really think I would still be cordial with the first cousins on my DH’s side and they wouldn’t defriend me on FB.  The BIL, lets just say I’m not FB friends with his wife now so there is no doubt I would never talk to them or see hide nor hair of niece if I was no longer related by marriage.

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