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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think if we could all magically know who our soul mate/perfect match was and married him/her at a young age, and live happily ever after, this would be ideal. But most people aren't this fortunate, and need to live and grow a bit before meeting the right person. That doesn't happen on any particular timetable.[/quote]

This.  I don't see how people think you can plan this all out. [/quote]

Because it seems like a lot of people do. I remember looking at all of the folks who seemed to have it all figured out wondering how they knew? Like an earlier poster I wasn't really taught anything about relationships growing up. I wasn't allowed to date in high school so no real oversight or guidance was there when I did start dating in college. I was just told to go to college and meet my husband there and he should be a doctor, lawyer or some other professional/high earner (my mom was a SAHM who became a teacher, father a veep at an international company). That was it. This means I dated a lot of great on paper doctor, lawyer high earner guys who were jerks for far too long. Once I got mature enough to figure out what I wanted vs. what was expected of me, it turns out I like altruistic and artistic men. I married an elem school teacher in my mid-30s. [/quote]

But so much of it is luck.  And different people mature at different rates.  I imagine you see many different long term outcomes for people who married and had kids at a young age.  Some good, some bad.  Just like different outcomes for people who didn't find someone and marry until later.  You just don't know what life has in store.[/quote]

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