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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I'm really torn about it.  I have monitored him since he was 13.  Initially his account was logged in on my phone and I saw everything.  Eventually when I saw he used it responsibility, I logged out and followed.  It has been only the past month that he blocked me from seeing stories.   He is really starting to come into his own and expecting more privacy.  He is almost 17....on the verge of adulthood.  He's an excellent student, and if more of a nerd socially than a partier.  My sense is that it is time to start letting go.  It's hard, but I do trust him to not do something stupid based on his past behavior on social media.  I knew many here would disagree, but I thought it would start a dialogue about when it is time to loosen the strings.[/quote]

In a year he could legally marry and join the military. It's fine for him to have social media you don't follow and not unusual for that to be his preference. [/quote]

My friends daughter just had a complete breakdown at college and has been home for the entire week, not sure how she's handling not being in class. She goes to Duke and is a very smart girl. However, I've known her for 12 years and her mother has always micromanaged her. Jer mom even called her student advisor asking about a medical waiver and the SA advised tjr mom to have the daughter woek this out. My friend was incensed.  From school to social media she has hovered over her (especially social media!). I feel like the daughter never learned to make mistakes or even cope with life in the slightest in her own. Now she's away at school (or was) and simply cannot hendle herself without mom holding her hand.

I think many parents these days are severely stunting their kids growth and causing them a hige disservice. When will these kiss be able to launch,  or will many of them never launch?

I think monitoring your 16, nearly 17yr olds social media is very dysfunctional. [/quote]

Agree. These kids are overworked and overmonitored. They are told they are the best and brightest. Don't make mistakes, etc....  Then they go off to college and commit suicides or have mental breakdowns. The kids have no resilience, have never learned to persevere thru failing times. No grit whatsoever. All the suicides at Columbia last year. Kids just jumping off parking garages. Thinking they are failing at life because they failed one mid term. Parents are failing and denying their kids serious life skills. It is really sad.

Of course you keep an eye on social media here and there. You take the phone nightly at bedtime so they can sleep. Young kids don't need the phone at all and older kids need to know it is not the end all that be all.  The parents GPS tracking their kids? Telling them daily how they should act on social media, etc..  Too much.  They are doing things behind your back regardless. [/quote]

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