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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]To what extent do you actually prioritize sex with your spouse?[/b] A lot, we were having sex 3 times a week when he started his 1st affair.

[b]Are you an enthusiastic partner?[/b]  Yes, more enthusiastic than he was since his new sex partner is obviously more interesting.

[b]How often do you initiate?[/b] Every Wednesday, Thursday and Saturday. he worked Monday, Tuesday nights and I usually have too much wine on Friday. 
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 How often do you reject your spouse (either explicitly or preemptively)?[/b] Only when he tried to initiate during my son's birthday party with 10 kids in the basement. Once I rejected him after I was dressed for a wedding and his parents had just arrived to the house since we were driving together. Once I rejected him in the parking garage after the movies.

[b]Has your frequency gone down over time due to your disinterest?[/b] Sure, once he started his affair, it went down due to his disinterest.

BTW, since you are going to ask. I am not fat, I work, I make more money than him, the house is clean, I cook.

Do you have any other questions? or reasons I caused an affair.

The affair took his attention and interest away from me, not the other way around. Affairs are about lying, deceit and taking energy away from the marriage not about cumming.

If you don't want to be married leave, don't have an affair.

Yes, people are not perfect but if perfection is the stick to which I am married I don't want to be married.

It is no different than saying "the bitch had it coming"... you don't hit your spouse, you don't cheat on your spouse, you don't blame them for your drinking.  [/quote]
Well you aren't a hypocritical bad partner. Despite being an apparently excellent partner, sadly that does not ensure a faithful marriage.
Nobody ever said "the bitch had it coming"
The PP merely said that anybody yelling "cheating is the ultimate betrayal" should look at their own role in sustaining a healthy sexual relationship.
This seems reasonable, even if it doesn't apply to you specifically, there are plenty of hypocrites on this forum who scream "cheater" as if sex were some important sacred act, yet their own sexlife consists of a reluctant monthly starfish performance.[/quote]

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