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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My sorority sister had the same issue with her parents for a while until she sat down with them to discuss why she and her husband were waiting to have children.  For her, it was all about getting her life "set up" financially in order to be in a position to be able to comfortable affording children.

She had never really had a frank discussion with her parents about this.  She grew up with a brother who died in a skiing accident so she was the only person that would provide the grandchildren.  Her dad is a quiet man and was mostly an observer to the conversation that she was having with her mother. He finally asked, "Are you saying that if your house was fully paid off, you would start a family?".

She responded that was a silly question but her dad said " No honey what is silly is for your mother and me to miss out on 5 years of grandchildren waiting for you to fell financially comfortable.  Then, hopefully, many years in the future, both your mother and I will be dead and you will get a large inheritance. The way that I see it, you get the money either way but your mother and I get to enjoy children longer".

Her mortgage was paid off (at age 25) and she was pregnant 2 months later.

OP - Ask your mom if she is willing to pay for what she wants.

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Damn. I think most of us would have had kids years earlier if we were financially set like that. DH and I waited 6 years to have kids because we couldn't afford them before and our jobs weren't set up to accommodate them (jobs still aren't, but now we can afford the unpaid baby leave more)[/quote]

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