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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Words like "parent"? Because that word would mean, to me, that the wellbeing and needs of the child come first. Taking a job which necessitates daycare and threatening the breadwinners income all IN THE MIDST OF choosing to divorce is a lot. It would be hard for me to justify that being in my kids best interest.

Initiate the divorce now, take the time to transition your child to daycare/deal with emotional fallout from divorce, and then once custody and alimony and child support are hammered out, get the RIGHT job for your new circumstances.

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Where do you possibly get that this guy legitimately thinks his job is being "threatened" by his wife working? That's a really bizarre assertion to make, and I cannot really picture any set of facts where it's true.  Childcare can be paid for; it's not rocket science -- thousands of DC "big job" couples do it every day.  One man does not have the right to unilaterally declare that his wife's unpaid labor must serve the child's best interests, while he gets to work.  [/quote]

Yes, they do. However, you continue to overlook the fact that this is not a situation of two "big jobs", and the child hasn't been in daycare to date. I'm assuming that the woman (OP) did not unilaterally decide to stay at home, so I'm not sure why she now has the power to unilaterally decide to work, even when not in anyone else best interest. Its not about him "getting" to work, its about the fact that this couple CHOSE to make his income the sole income for the family. He has been the only breadwinner for who knows how long. To change things up is fine, but its inane to believe that the decision to have a SAHP should be a unilateral one but the decision for one spouse to change that agreement should be entirely up to her. [/quote]

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