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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you signed over custody to him how on earth would he manage to get his kid to daycare and back regularly?  You know, since he's "on call" at all times.

Is he a transplant surgeon?  My husband is a law partner and he has come in late, left early, and had two little girls twirling in his office on occasion.  [/quote]

OP here, happy to hear this. My DH is also in law, so good to know he actually can rearrange his schedule to accommodate kids. [/quote]

Depends on the type of lawyer you are.

My DH is in Biglaw, and while he has *some* flexibility in his work schedule, if a client sets up a call at the last minute, it is almost impossible for him to say no and still be successful - the clients are paying $$$ per hour, and part of what they are paying for is constant access to their legal team.

We ALWAYS have backup plans if I am counting on DH to do pick-up/drop-off with the kids, since DH has had those moments where a client wants something ASAP. I could rely on him on weekends to watch the kids for a few hours, but he works a lot of hours on weekends, too.

I have another sibling who is a litigator in NYC, and he disappears for about 6 weeks around trial time a few times a year. No flexibility at all with that timing.

I think your DH is being difficult and awful when he talks to you, but (at least in my experience) Biglaw lawyers do not have a lot of flexibility to plan their life around family-time on a regular basis if they want to be successful. [/quote]

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