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[quote=Anonymous]well, what you feel  is what you feel; so I can't say it's "wrong" to be "unsettled".  But it's a feeling worth examining honestly.

We don't find it odd when 12yo girls like boys.  Many are in puberty at that age, yes?  So, they're starting to think about such things  . . . in a physical way.  That's what hormones do.

And you claim it wouldn't bother you if she came out as as a lesbian instead?  Only that she's bi?  Is it because you think of that as particularly wrong or kinky?  For a 12-year-old, it probably means she has had (or could imagine having) crushes on both boys and girls.  I wouldn't read a whole lot into it.  I doubt it means she has had sex with both to figure it out.

Also, 12-year-olds are definitely still figuring out (in fact, just starting to grapple with) their identity.  Just in general, never mind how it relates to sex or attraction.  So, a 12-year-old making a broad proclamation of her identity is not necessarily unusual.  I wouldn't read a whole lot into that either.  She's excited and trying on a new identity.

Also, I think . . . it is just not that unusual for 12-year-old girls to have bi tendencies.  Or much older women, for that matter.  But I realize people may differ on that point.[/quote]

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