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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The ONLY way i would do this is if it were either each family got their own room or the men and boys had their own space so did the women and girls. 
I am not changing my tampon with my BIL in the next stall and then sleeping next to me. Nope. 
I also don't want my preteen daughters walking in on BIL getting out of the shower. It isn't creepy but totally not comfortable at all.

You need to let them know that while you will love to visit, the house they are building and the future they are envisioning with it won't be reality. You need to get the Siblings and other inlaws on board to back you up that every holiday will NOT be spent in a barracks. Nope. Not gonna happen.

If they want to take all the grandkids for a week a summer up there, more power to them. [/quote]

Yeah, this is not a great set up on a lot of levels.  Even the idea of these grandparents having all of the grandchildren there for a week over the summer may be a bit premature.  obviously, the kids are too young right now to be left alone in a room like that.  When they are older, who knows if the cousins will even get along with each other or if the grandparents will be capable of supervising them all for any length of time.

[b]I suppose you could make it work on some level by staying nearby in another rental property or hotel and hanging out at the their house during the day.[/b]  But is that really how you want to spend your time, vacation leave and money every holiday?

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This could be a nice way to raise the issue. "How exciting your new house plans are done! We will look into the closest rental properties so we can stay close by whenever we come to visit. We want to be walkable so we can spend as much time with you all during the day as possible!" Then if they press, you could gently point out the communal living situation isn't feasible with multiple families visiting at once who need privacy, have different sleep schedules for young children, etc.?  I don't know... I feel for you! It's tough to have these conversations, but you should at least put your in-laws on notice you have no plans to stay here before this house is done![/quote]

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