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[quote=Anonymous]Wow. To all you people suggesting the OP should be printing out pictures and/or be responsible for providing updates and involving other siblings in key decisions, I say book a plane reservation and come take care of these matters yourself.

I saw my widowed mom care for her mother with dementia for years, while also working full time and taking care of me. She had virtually no free time whatsoever for years. Her two sisters barely lifted a finger or helped in any way. My grandmother died when I was only 10, but the workload my mom carried made a real impression on me. She didn't complain, but it was obvious she could have used help. I know she asked for it, but her sisters thought they were doing "all they could." Somehow they managed to show up after my grandfather died and raid the house, while my mother sat quietly on the sofa and sobbed.

If you have an extreme illness in your own household or other extenuating circumstances, then you get more of a pass but you don't get to complain or offer unsolicited advice. If you have nothing going on other than the hectic day-to-day stuff we are all dealing with, then the words I have for you cannot be typed here.

Good luck, OP.  I have no siblings, so I am caring for my 90-year-old mom on my own and with DH's help. It's tough. But my mom taught me  by example and if your kids are watching you care for your elderly parents, then you are teaching them some very good lessons that will stay with them for life.[/quote]

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