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[quote=Anonymous]I have an elderly mother who lives with us and for me it is incredibly taxing.  Honestly, I don't care if she's happy or not.....that's pretty far down the list of priorities.  I focus on her health....getting her to numerous doctor appointments, making sure she strictly adheres to a complicated medication schedule that goes beyond simply popping pills, making sure her nutritional plan is implemented, making sure she baths regularly and changes her clothes daily, making sure her PT gets done, paying her bills, maintaining her home which is four states away, and so on.  It's a huge job and I've found that I am just not well equipped to be a caregiver.  I resent all of the things I can't do because of the things I have to do and our relationship has had many ups and downs over the years.  When I'm in the middle of cooking her favorite dinner (only to be inevitably told it's mediocre) because it's the only way she'll eat I find myself thinking of all of the terribly selfish and frankly mean-spirited things she's done over the years.  I don't know....sorry to babble on but your post touched a nerve.  I know she won't be around too much longer but her dementia makes it very hard day to day and candidly I'm not even sure what would make her happy anymore.  Her life just sucks but it makes mine suck at a time when I should be spending time with my children who will be off to college in the blink of an eye. [/quote]

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