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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Found out as an adult.  It didn't change anything because it has nothing to do with me.  I don't see my mom as an extension of me - she is a wholly autonomous person with her own desires and wishes.  She was, and is, an excellent mom to me, and nothing would change that. Her sex life is none of my business. Her relationship with my father (to whom she is still married) is none of my business. Who am I to decide she should have denied herself? I don't own her. [/quote]

Curious how you found out in adulthood?  Did one of them tell you?  If so, why? 
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My dad told me, and mom confirmed later. I told them it doesn't change anything for me so that's that. I won't get involved.

I'm close as could be with my mom, and I have a somewhat distant relationship with my dad. I don't see how their sex life is any of my business. They don't owe me sexual fidelity.

I'm always amused with DCUM arguing there is only one possible way to feel about whatever, and if you don't, there must be something wrong with you. A dead baby, OK, not too many different ways to feel about it.  But sexual behavior of one's parents? That's different. [/quote]

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