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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No.  I used to visit my college friends when I was in high school and every event involved drinking and unacceptable behavior.  I'm surprised I survived![/quote]

Too many parents on this board want to coddle little billy/mary right up to the point that they leave the house.  Then they are shocked when the sheltered child goes wild during first weeks of college.

I let my older during senior year visit friends at a couple of Universities in the fall. I suspect that there was drinking going on but I have always operated on a "don't ask / don't tell" when it comes to teen drinking.  I drank a couple times a month in high school and I survived as did my friends.

These comments are not directed to the nervous nellies who always pat themselves on the back and are in an apparent arms race to show how protective they can be of their children. They believe that they love their too much to accept any risk and will go to herculean efforts to show how great of parents that they are. Unfortunately, these are lost causes and nothing that I or anyone could write will ever convince them that there are other reasonable alternatives.

Instead, this is for those parents who are willing to weigh the risk/rewards and are able to look beyond the following week. Such long thinkers are becoming increasingly rare in today's world!
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Do you think that 16 year old HS kids are too young to visit their college friends overnight?  What about 15?  How about 14, 13, 12?  Would you let your 14 year old go to a fraternity party with college students?

To my way of thinking they are going to be kids for such a short time.  HS is a milestone in their lives and they should be enjoying being in HS and having the extra supervision (and security) of mom and dad for a little while longer.  They will be graduated from HS soon enough, those days will be over and they will never be able to go back to them ever again.  Let them enjoy being teenagers in HS while they still can.  College, dorms, roommates, and college social events can wait.[/quote]

Straw man argument [/quote]

You called parents who don't allow their HS 17/18 year old HS kids to stay overnight at their friends' college campuses, nervous nellies and coddlers.  I personally think that there is nothing wrong with telling kids that college life can wait until they are in college.

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