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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Apparently I will disagree with pp.  I think it's f'ed up.  That's one of the most f'ed up things I've ever read on here.  I can't even.

Most of us threaten no tv, no screen time, no cookie after dinner tomorrow.  Something.  Sticking him in a closet is . . . awful.  I'm just going to say awful and leave it at that. [/quote]

OP here. I worry it's also very harsh.  Some practical advice would be helpful. What would you do if your child worked himself up so much that he was crying and unable to listen to reason?  This is the only thing that brings him back to earth, except of course, giving him what he wants.  (We have a terrible track record of him incrementalizing and walking all over us, when do give in.)

Rewards or taking things away work because he is so worked up. Think of a kid who wants a toy, nags mom, nags more, then finally throws a full-blown tantrum. Mom finally gives in, but the kid is so worked up he can't hear and keeps going.  That's my kid at bedtime.
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You don't give into the tantrum. Intermittent reinforcement means he will try to get his way everytime since you will give in eventually. You turn out the lights. Sit in his room and he cries. You don't talk to him or keep saying it's bedtime. Y the time he's tantruming.

I would talk up a sticker chart and morning rewards for a good bedtime process way before it's time for bed. Refocus him as much as possible. [/quote]

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