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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This had a MAJOR impact on my marriage. I simply wasn't able to do two full time jobs and that's what I was doing. My husband simply wasn't motivated to do more than yard work and occasional dishes.  (Again, see "The Two-Income Trap" by Sen. Elizabeth Warren, who as a law professor did a huge study on this topic as it relates to personal bankruptcy.)
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I went PT eventually but only after we came very close to divorce and our kids suffered through a lot of fighting and yelling. I think way too many women are working the "second shift." Feminism to me means recognizing the value of traditional home keeping and childrearing, splitting the duties or paying someone else to do them, NOT expecting women to work full time and then pick up the traditional stuff as well. I  know maybe ONE  marriage where husband does 50 percent of home and child care, even when the wife makes considerably more $, as I did.

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Don't you worry that you will be economically disadvantaged if you do divorce, because you gave up your full time work? I chose to keep working full time and outsource things, to keep my earning potential.  I also really lowered my standards in terms of housekeeping :-)  I take regular vacation days, probably once every six weeks, for "me" time.  [/quote]

I know its a concern for me not working but I'm not so much worried about divorce as something happening to my husband but now my income potential is so low it would be a huge issue.  If a parent is smart, they will make sure they have separate money in their name.  When we do savings, we do it in both our names.  I make sure to take money regularly into my individual checking.  I also make sure that my child has 529's in each of our names with more being in mine so it will not be an issue if something happens and I can easily access it.  Part of it is protecting yourself.[/quote]

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