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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an Indian woman and I find it slightly embarrassing that myself, my sister and our 3 close friends have all always exclusively dated and wound up marrying white preppy men.

Yes of course if you ask us why, we'll say, " love is color blind!" But somehow I can't help but wonder at the underlying self-racism that must be deeply seated in each of our psyche. It's not like we were all born here. We each immigrated to the U.S when old enough to know our roots and culture. I am very happy in my relationship and so are the rest of the women I reference, but sometimes I look at photographs of the pairs of us and cringe.[/quote]
One possibility is that you are sad to lose the chance to bring up your kids the way you were brought up, to have an Indian home with unspoken understanding of customs, rituals, important dates, the way things ought to be done.  Don't underestimate how important that is.  Identity is a funny thing, it evolves throughout your life when you immigrate, especially as an adult.  Children, in particular, often make you reassess how important your culture is to you.  [/quote]

Don't understand

Why are you posting on an American forum from India.  Surely someone that thinks like this would not flee their culture[/quote]

Work on understanding.[/quote]

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