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[quote=Anonymous]Sigh. Your post makes me sad, op (I know it makes you sad, too), but equally so do the numerous responses berating you.

My two cents as a parent of tweens and a recovering workaholic law firm partner:

- it is unreasonable for your kids to expect you to drop everything for them
- tweens are unreasonable and will expect you to drop everything for them
- your tween will sometimes criticize you whichever road you choose and you have to have a thick skin

* you have to think about your own priorities, and then how best to implement them -- stop thinking about your DD's requests for a minute, and ask yourself do you think you/spouse spend enough quality time with your kids on a day to day basis (and by that, I don't mean that you need to spend hours with them during the work week, but are you attending to their basic needs, and spending at least a small time for each of them with one on one, undivided attention interactions - this can even be the 15 min as they are lying in bed, reading them a book))? if the answer is no, how can you fix that? there are lots of options, including hiring more help or cutting back work hours or adjusting work hours so that sometimes it spills onto the weekend but gives you more time during the week, or dropping a committee role at your firm, etc., and you and your spouse best know the solution for your family.  if you do think you spend enough quality time with your kids, then you need to stop being held hostage by your DD's guilt trips.[/quote]

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