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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a low SES school would actually be better and more accepting...more diversity means accepting all types of diversity among students.[/quote]

Another Poster.  I disagree.

I'm a little concerned about OP's statements that the comments were "hideous but innocent."

I am sympathetic, OP, but it sounds like this is not a case of bullying--which puts a different spin on this issue.  Bullying is usually not innocent.

It's hard to figure out the situation from what you have said.  If it is just that you have a non-traditional family, that is one thing.  If your child does not fit a traditional model, that is another issue.

If the comments are truly innocent, I think you are going to have to face the issue head on with your child.  You should request the help of the school, but I am not sure changing schools would get a different result.

Now, if it is bullying--then, a school change might be better.  Nevertheless, I think you have to work with your child to understand that you have a different living situation from most, but that you are a family and that is fine--just different.

Unfortunately, part of this is that all kids want to be accepted, and they frequently think (erroneously) that being the same as everyone else is acceptance.  Certainly, being different may make it more difficult, but it should not.  Different does not mean worse.  It only means different.  [/quote]

OP HERE- I keep forgetting to say that, hope clear in other responses. I definitely would not call it "bullying" in the real sense. Kids are young, don't understand and ask questions and put forward hypotheses my child finds extremely embarrassing to field and is too young to explain even with the coaching we have given. Some comments sound mean to my child but when they explain the context to me I can understand other child's misunderstandings and misperceptions. 
And yes, it is this yearning to be not be different yet knowing they can do nothing about being different and being too young to understand why that is causing the pain.  Direct quote " I dont know how to be happy being xxx". I want to go to heaven because I know I'll always be happy there." Or " Okay parent, I don't want to kill myself ( when I'm in tears over child saying they want to do just that) , I just don't want to be here anymore."

There are no words to describe the pain we, as parents, feel for dearest child who can't help their situation.[/quote]

Is your child still in private therapy?

I admit, [b]I'm having trouble understanding this situation. [/b]I appreciate you want your privacy I won't argue with that, but I'm also having a hard time imagining how your situation can be so unique that none of the children in your child's current school would have the vaguest understanding of it, yet there are enough similarly situated children in a choice program that your child could be moved there and wouldn't feel "different."[/quote]

Think. What students might not be at a school like Jamestown, except for in the Pre-K class(es). Think really hard. I'm sure you'll get to it eventually.

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