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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP doesn't sound like a terrible person. I have two kids and I would be annoyed. I don't mind sharing but want to be able to enjoy my things and don't want to feel like I'm being taken advantage of.  I didn't enjoy going on vacation with others before or after kids. Now that I'm older I'm comfortable refusing.  Getting together for a few hours with people is enjoyable but overnights are not. It's too much. [/quote]

This is totally fair.  You do mind sharing.  You know you mind sharing.  You no longer vacation with others.  A grown up approach all around.

Here's your solution OP.
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Happily shared snacks and sunscreen, etc. But my beach chair constantly being taken because theirs suck. Ugh. [/quote]

"Hey Suzy, I'd like to sit in my chair now. If you don't like your chair, maybe you should head to the beach shop (or send your husband) to get a new one?"

Use your words.

We were in the Caribbean with friends and nobody bothered to pack sunblock except me. I brought special face sunblock (nothing you can buy at cvs; think high end makeup line), and there was no way I was sharing it. When everyone asked to "borrow" my sunblock, I pulled out one can of spray and said, "WTH guys? Who travels to the Caribbean and doesn't pack sunblock?" They responded in unison, "We knew you would bring plenty of the good stuff." I told them they could have the one can and then suggested they could buy more in the resort gift shop. Nobody got upset because we are all good friends (since high school), and we used our words rather than stewing. [/quote]

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