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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was one of those who used to judge parents very harshly when the kids were not on their best behavior. And then I gave birth to a wonderful, adorable little boy with non-visible special needs. We rarely go out to eat, but sometimes my husband's relatives basically force us by taking offense if we don't come to their events at restaurants.

My son cannot sit still and becomes easily agitated. He calms himself by running up and down the aisles of restaurants and through tables. Everyone takes a turn going to follow him and make sure he does not get in trouble, but I know he still disruptive to other diners. He is trying his best and so are we, his parents. But it is very hard.[/quote]

Why don't you take him outside instead of disrupting others?[/quote]
I do. We spend much of our time outside while everyone else eats at these obnoxious events my in-laws like to hold.  inevitably, one of them will come outside and ask us to come in so they can take photos or see my son, with the implication being that I am keeping him away from them. It is a very tough situation made harder by thoughtless people. [/quote]

Who is thoughtless, your in-laws?[/quote]

Have you not explained to your in laws that your child is handicapped and cannot participate in these events?   [/quote]
+1  And if they still don't "care", then have you thought of just not going? How can they "force" you to attend?  I understand that they probably make your situation very uncomfortable, but then, your DH should be the one running interference and explaining it to them.  [/quote]
PP here, thanks for your unsolicited advice, but I didn't post for your input. I answered the OP's question. That's all.[/quote]

At some point you have to stop making excuses.  You and your husband are presumably grown adults.  If you know your kid can't function in certain settings, don't put out him in those situations.  You don't get to say - oh it will be hard, or oh other people won't listen - and therefore I will endanger my kid and disrupt everyone in a restaurant.  Sorry, it doesn't, or at least shouldn't, work that way.  At some point, you should take responsibility for making decisions that are unfair to your kid and other patrons since it is your choice - not your meany in-laws - for going to the restaurant and/or bringing your kid back in when you know he won't be able to handle it.[/quote]
Are you on the spectrum? Why don't you get that people don't care what you think? It's so odd when people continue to pile on to a poster who isn't interested. Move on.[/quote]

It was my first post on this thread.  There are lots of people who feel this way.  If PP wants to pretend it is just one person who simply doesn't understand the difficulties she faces to justify her conduct, there isn't much that can be done.[/quote]

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