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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Except for the sex he sounds great! You should have a serious talk with him about it. Does he like sex but is lousy. Or does he not like it. If he doesn't like it is he gay or is there something else causing it. If he's just not good at it then play teacher. Don't give up on him until you know exactly where he stands on sex.[/quote]

This.  Isn't the saying that communication is important for a relationship?  Well that includes taking about sex directly and the non-verbal communications in expressing what you like in bed.   Just keep thinking at 15 and 17 your kids are going to be out of the house and if you marry this guy it will just be the two of you.  There won't be the distractions of running around to soccer, dance, band, looking at colleges etc.  It will be the two of you, newlyweds, no children in the house ....queue the porno music soundtrack.  There really will be no excuses why you shouldn't be getting good sex multiple times a week and at that point the cracks in the relationship will be very apparent.

If he has a low sex drive, you will feel resentful and not sexy/desirable.  You also miss out on the emotional connection that is enhanced with good sex in a loving relationship.  If he likes sex and thinks he is laying it down and you are thinking I've gotten more excitement from the second shower head,  he will feel hurt and feel rejected because you are either faking it and not being honest or rejecting his overtures/never initiating.  The third option the other PP alluded to is maybe he likes his sex different and that's why he isn't all in with you.  That reminds me of the DCUM thread where the husband after many years of not great sex told his wife his fantasies and what got him excited.  She was not interested in doing those things and was freaked out like what now.[/quote]

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