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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Kids need parents in different ways in different life stages.

The first three years are the most influential in a child's life. That is when the bulk of brain development happens and sets the foundation for who your child will be for life. Every interaction during those early years matters as each one is shaping your child's brain development. Whoever is spending the most time with your child and reacting, responding, teaching, leading, comforting, etc is the one who is having the most influence on brain development. Some parents want to be that person, other parents entrust that role to a child care provider.

In the 4 -10 stage, kids are building on that foundation and learning complex social skills and dynamics, figuring out how the world works, figuring out who they are and what they like and don't like, developing their thinking skills, learning to cope and deal with feelings. At this stage they need someone who can answer lots of questions, support their interests, talk them through social situations, explaining how things work and generally providing guidance.

11-13 are pretty impressionable years. Kids start to really look to their friends and to other kids , they experience more social pressures and have to figure out how to react, their decision making and independence skills are developing, they are taking on more responsibility, some are starting to get into identity development, they are dealing with puberty, they experience more conflict that they have to figure out how to resolve. Kids in this age need a lot of supervision and guidance. They frequently try to deal with things on their own that they don't fully understand. they need invested persons who know what is going on in their lives and touching base frequently.

13-15 - this can be a really hard age. Peer pressure is at is strongest, social status matters a lot, it is often a time of confusion, lack of sense of self, experimentation, needing to be unique and noticed yet wanting to fit in, risk taking, trying new things, pushing for more independence and putting themselves into situations that are beyond their critical thinking and decision making capacity. This is when alcohol, drugs, sex, delinquent activity often becomes part of their world. I think this age needs pretty much the most parental support, supervision, connection and direction.

16- 18 - these kids are now in the pre adult phase. Taking on more and more decision making, independence and responsibility. they need to be able to start setting their own boundaries and deciding for themselves that they will or won't do. They need adults more to bounce ideas off of and to step in if they are going way off track. [/quote]

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