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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would focus on your kids getting involved in a sport like karate to get more resiliance.

I would also focus on more one on one playing and not the big neighborhood gang playing if they are really that upset by rough play.  If they are playing in a big group of boys, it is going to get rough at times.  That is how boys that age play.

Also look at how you respind to the rough play. Do you give them an incentive to getting upset over rough play? For example, if you son comes in crying that someone threw the ball too hard or shoved him during capture the flag, do you immediately react in an indignant way about what happened, then cuddle or comfort your kid?  Or do you kiss the bump then tell him to brush it off and go play?  It could very well be that you are reinforcing your kids' (for lack of a better word) wimpiness when they play, which in turn makes them continue to react with sensitivity which can in turn make them more of a target.[/quote]

100% this. Growing up, my parents never intervened when my brother or I came home upset. It was for us to work out among our peers. No calling Johnny's mom because he threw worms in my hair or pushed me off my bike (both actually happened). It was "go back outside and play" after a brief cool down period. We were always taught to stand up for ourselves. It worked. None of us are emotionally scarred and some of the meaner kids growing up actually ended up being my friends because as time went on and we grew up together, we matured and buried the hatchet over stupid stuff. [/quote]

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