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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am a father with sons. We're black so my view on aggressive behavior is probably different than others.

I make it 100 percent clear that my sons are not to lay a hand on anyone. When they were kids I made it clear that they need to steer completely away from rough housing, etc. I do this because they are big guys and when shit goes sideways -- like it inevitably will -- they will never, ever get the benefit of the doubt of "boys being boys."

That said, my sons are great athletes, good students, respectful and keep themselves out of trouble. They are older now, high school and college, but I drill it into them -- they cannot behave in an aggressive way, ever. It's not safe and life threatening at worse.

This is the sort of category of parenting that I put things like partying, drinking, drugs, etc. Sure, do kids rough house? Yeah. But when your son breaks some other kids bone (or worse) and your ass is sued or your son is arrested (because this happens on the regular for fighting in public schools for example), my guys are not going to get the benefit of the doubt and their lives could be ruined.

But go ahead on about the wussification of men, PPs. It's easy to be a bad ass, pick fights, be aggressive, walk around with your guns (or whatever "macho" man violent thing you do to show the world you're a man) when you know that you won't be murdered for it.[/quote]

OP here - thanks for this perspective. I can't imagine raising black sons and the fear I would have for them now and in the future. [/quote]

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