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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, most of these posts are from women, so take what they say with a grain of salt as they know nothing about what it is like to be a boy. 
First, don't blame yourself. Guys in the US have become puzzified over the last 20+ years. It is worse among kids not playing sports and it is far worse in urban areas

Second, forget about these stupid books and role playing garbage.

Third, your kids need to mentally overcome this fear now, as this will likely lead to other issues down the road. This is what happens when boys are treated like girls. I like what the counselor said above about kids wrestling with their father, but that is just a start. I think anything with physical contact will help. It doesn't necessarily have to be tae Kwon do or karate because sparring is so light that nobody really takes much damage. Wrestling or football would be great. Some conflict among kids can be really healthy. For example, punching someone in the face is a good way to build self esteem and set boundaries in certain situations.[/quote]

I think this post ticks me off the most because it glorifies the old days when men were men and women just made dinner and laid on their backs. [b]For the love of god, you think it's healthy to punch people in the face to build self esteem.[/b]

Over-sensitivity is not what happens when boys are treated like girls, it's what happens when ANY kid's brain is wired to be sensitive. I think OP is doing great by recognizing this in her kids and asking the right questions. Sometimes, it just takes time. I was an over-sensitive kid, and physical hits often registered emotionally for me. My body would cry even though it didn't really hurt and I wasn't really mad or angry. It just... happened. And I grew out of it.

And anyway, for all this bullshit toughen-them-boys-up talk, I think a blanket statement could be made that all children (ALL OF THEM) need some resilience and toughness and grit. The fact that it's demanded of boys and demeaned in girls is a throwback to half a century ago, so let's try to drag ourselves into this millennium and stop with the caveman attitudes.[/quote]

I am one of the posters that said they need to fix this.

Crying regularly over perceived slights and typical active play is not a good trait no matter yow sensitive a kid is.

I would say the same thing if OP had girls.  8 year old is too opd to be crying like this on a regular basis, and if he doesn't outgrow it he is going to open himself up to bullying in a few years.

And yes, crying all the time is not typical for boys. OP has received some good, practical suggestion, not just useless theory that boys need to be more like girls.[/quote]

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