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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, it's vacation seasons. And in two weeks we will be going to the beach.

My oldest son is 16, and has always been fairly large for his age. Over the past year or so he has put on an alarming amount of weight that seems to have gone straight to his gut. Being slightly chubby to begin with, this makes him look quite overweight (as he is) and unattractive, particularly when he isn't wearing a shirt. We are trying to help him lose around 20 pounds, but since this certainly won't happen before our trip, I kindly suggested that we could buy him a nice swimming shirt so he didn't have to be so embarrassed while at the beach, especially since we know that he is fairly insecure about his size right now.

Anyway, my problem is that he is not at all interested in this, saying that guys don't wear shirts while swimming and that it would be more embarrassing to him then his big belly.

Thing is, I don't think it is appropriate for him to be out there baked from the waist up with his gut all out for anyone and everyone to see. With his shirt off it's just flabby and unappealing, and honestly men's bathing suits are cut in a way that looks great on people who are fit and slender, but are not flattering to those that are larger or less in shape.

I don't want to make a big deal about it or create an issue around his weight, but I was wondering if I should just drop it or press the issue. I have already tried to convince him that he would now have a goal - to lose the weight he needs to before next time he will go swimming, but that I don't think he should go topless in public until then, but I am unsure how to convince him of that.[/quote]

Usually, I'm not one to jump on the bandwagon and assume bad intentions, but geez, it sounds like *you're* the one who is embarrassed and has the bigger problem with your son's weight.

Look at the language you've used--flabbly, unappealing, big belly, etc. This is your child. [/quote]

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