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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I can't get this out of my mind. Have thing calmed down? What an awful experience![/quote]

OP here. Things have calmed down in a way. I think the chaos of last weekend made it difficult to see what was really happening. But after having a few days away from things, I think my siblings and in-laws all agree that the guy was grooming my mother and that she would have likely ended up in an abusive relationship with him.

My mother isn't there yet. She keeps going on about how well he treated her, how he took care of things, etc. etc. A lot of her friends have now confided in her that he was rude to them and they didn't think he was great, but didn't feel like they could or should say anything because she seemed happy and he seemed to dote on her and be attentive.

My mother's therapist pointed out that being overly doting to a partner while being offensive to outsiders of the relationship and pushing isolation was a tactic abusers use.

I just didn't know or think much about domestic abuse when my mother began dating again. We were just happy she was getting out there and making friends.

Layla is a little freaked out, but she lives five hours away. She actually told the hospital and medical facility where she works about the ex, gave them a picture and made it clear that if he's spotted to immediately call the police and do a lock down. She's a more public figure due to her name (which is unique) and that her medical expertise is particularly sought out/google-able (because of happy former patients). We all supported and encouraged her to do this.

It's an awful situation, but I hope sharing it will help others whose parents are getting back out there to keep dating safety in mind.[/quote]

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