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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All of my friends who had nannies did house work, too.  Maybe it's cultural.  My DD is in daycare so I've never had one but my sister and many other friends always said that their nannies would cook, clean, even do laundry when the baby was sleeping. I remember my sister's nanny would ask them to buy certain products so the nanny could cook them meals while the baby was sleeping.  And no, none of them are low class at all.[/quote]
That's nice and how does this solve OP's problem?[/quote]
OP's problem is that she can't find a PT nanny. Several PP's have suggested that she could hire a FT nanny and have her do more things that are non-childcare related while her mom is in town.

I honestly think that 1) grandma will not come nearly as often as she says she will and 2) grandma will not be able to/want to handle FT childcare for an entire week at a time. Because of that, the FT nanny will be utilized mostly as a FT nanny with perhaps more frequent than average grandparent visits. I learned very early that when my ILs came and made a point of saying that I should tell the kids' nanny that she can leave early because they will watch the kids, I should not listen to them. Grandparents want time with the kids. They don't want to necessarily change diapers or do all of the manual work. And a nanny can facilitate that.

Despite what PP's might be saying, there are good nannies who provide excellent care and also don't have huge sticks up their butt that make them believe that anything that doesn't directly involve their charge is beneath them. Contrary to those same PPs, these nannies are not cheap, but they are hard-working. I honestly think half of the insults to people who don't kiss the feet of their nannies every day are posted by nannies themselves. I don't see why. My nanny who is willing to do things you consider beneath you is not a threat to you...I would never hire you anyway.[/quote]
Yes there are nannies who will do anything for you.
The also tend to be in the country illegally or refugees from extremely impoverished or violent countries.
They also tend to accept extremely low wages and are paid illegally.
Maybe you are ok with breaking the law and taking advantage with someone in need, but not everyone is.[/quote]
Well, my nanny was born and grew up 10 minutes from where we live. And she's paid above average wages on the books. So, nice try, but no.

She could easily find another position, but she loves working for us. We support her aspirations to get a MSW, and we treat her with a lot of respect. And while you all seem to think I'm working her to the bone, more often than not she's still bored because she doesn't have enough to do while the kids are sleeping. She takes it upon herself to do things like clean out the pantry etc, just so she has something to do. I literally just had to apologize to her, because DS is asleep and she was asking for something to do but I couldn't think of a single thing.[/quote]

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