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[quote=Anonymous]I just read this entire thread and it upsets me on so many different levels...

1. To the OP... Your daughter was wrong. There are no two ways about it, it is a word that should never pass her lips.... period. What should be done at this point is that you should have a conversation about it with her making sure that she is really clear about why it is wrong and that there is no justification for her to have said it in the first place, or to ever say it again. Additionally, there should be consequences... you are the parent so I cannot tell you what those consequences should be. That being said it should not be a slap of the wrist, it should be more substantial than that and so that she is motivated to change her behavior.

2. To the people who are confused about why this is a word that should never be said by non-black people. Stop it... just stop it. It is 2017, I need you to know that even though you think black folks should be grateful for how far we have come in America and should stop complaining and bringing up the past or calling folks out on their BS when they are clearly wrong. Black people are human beings... just like everyone else, we should not be thankful that we are being treated better... We should be (and are) pissed off because we are not treated with the same level of decency as everyone else.... period. That being said.... regardless of why you want to use the word, it is off limits... don't do it. I know that is seems unfair, but know that when you are accustomed to privilege, equality feels like oppression.

3. The whole argument about the word being heard in music that is readily available so expecting teens not to say it is unreasonable is ridiculous. First of all, grow the heck up and parent your kids.... stop letting them have access to things you do not find appropriate for them to emulate. Second, pornography is readily available... would you simply ignore it if you found your teen with a video camera set up in their bedroom taping themselves masturbating or having sex? No, you would lose your mind.... a rightfully so. Just because the could find it on the internet, does not mean you should not teach your kids it is wrong... and prohibit them from doing it... and give major consequences if you found out they were.

Honestly I feel like I barely touched the surface, please know that nothing I said should be taken a blanket indictment on all people. If it applies to you or your situation take it in and process it. If it doesn't apply to you then move on.[/quote]

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