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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you marry someone who might get cancer some day? Would you marry someone who might start overeating and gain 60 pounds some day? Would you marry someone who shows no sign of mental illness until a brain injury at age 50?

This is such an offensive topic to get in to. Might surprise you OP, but there are many, many people with mental illnesses who frequent DCUM. I'd probably marry most of them before I wanted to marry someone as ignorant as you. [/quote]

+1  Not to mention, people with diagnosed mental illness who seek treatment from a professional and comply with their meds are actually (IMO) far more stable and honest and reliable than the people with undiagnosed mental illness who are convinced they're fine and think it's "weak" to see a psychiatrist.

And mental illness is a broad category.  Most people have at some point in their life suffered at least a mild form of a mental illness (not all mental illnesses are chronic and lasting).  PPD is a mental illness, but it is treatable and usually temporary (if the person gets treatment).

Furthermore, there are plenty of mental illnesses that really don't manifest until there is a triggering episode, like a death in the family, job loss, having a baby.  It's virtually impossible to tell while dating or even in the early stages of living with someone whether or not a huge life change will trigger mental illness.

[b]The only thing you can tell when dating with someone is whether or not they have a hangup about seeing a psychologist/psychiatrist or whether they think that it's "weak" to suffer from a mental illness.  IMO, those are the people to avoid marrying because they are the ones who will refuse to seek treatment if they ever have an issue.  They're also the ones who will usually refuse counseling when there is an issue in the marriage.  They tend to be the ones who are also oblivious to their own quirks and issues and, because of that lack of self-awareness, are difficult to deal with when there's an issue.[/b][/quote]

Hallelujah![/quote]

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